What I meant was that if the children didn't get treated evenly (as shown in the above examples), that might account for them behaving selfishly - having a "grab it before anyone else does" attitude. I object to her treating the children unevenly, not to her treating herself to something. Though again, I still don't think it was a sensible thing to do. It's certainly possible to have failings as a mother and not be a bad mother. It's also possible to think someone is a bad mother, or has failings s a mother, without being either "anti-mother" or "anti-women".

Again, it's your interpretation that's "obnoxious". Again, you're taking offence at something you've inferred, not something I've stated.

Perhaps in future you should clarify someone's intent before you go on the attack. Frankly I find your inferral that I hold such attitudes, on very little evidence, both insulting and unjustified.