Well, yes. She made the decision, not him. So how can we examine his rightness or wrongness?
I don't really get your point - is it that because he's not there, he should be held equally responsible for the debatable* parenting decisions she makes on her own, because she's forced to make them on her own, due to his absence?
and ajhalluk was asking whether you would think that someone questioning Commander Marlow's parenting was anti-man and anti-father, since you seem to think questioning Mrs Marlow's parenting choices is anti-woman and anti-mother - you haven't answered that yet
Judging his abilities, and strengths and weaknesses as an absentee father is something else entirely separate from assessing Mrs. Marlow's decision to give a horse to one child out of eight. For all we know, he might have been appalled by this, or he might have whole-heartedly agreed. We don't know, so in this case, we can't judge.
We can, however, debate his parenting skills and choices as a separate issue.
*debatable because well, we're having a debate about it.
no subject
I don't really get your point - is it that because he's not there, he should be held equally responsible for the debatable* parenting decisions she makes on her own, because she's forced to make them on her own, due to his absence?
and
Judging his abilities, and strengths and weaknesses as an absentee father is something else entirely separate from assessing Mrs. Marlow's decision to give a horse to one child out of eight. For all we know, he might have been appalled by this, or he might have whole-heartedly agreed. We don't know, so in this case, we can't judge.
We can, however, debate his parenting skills and choices as a separate issue.
*debatable because well, we're having a debate about it.