I said I saw it as a mistake she'd made, and later, that I didn't think she was a particularly good mother.

You know, it was this comment that got me convinced - since you were rapidly denying things I thought I remembered you saying (and when I checked, found you had said) that I must have got two commenters confused.

Checked, and found I hadn't: just that you don't want to look at the assumptions you were making all down the thread. You don't even want to acknowledge that you made them.

I take back my apology.