It might also be a product of growing up in a family where actually requesting anything seems rather frowned on (presumably because it's disclosing the emotional state of wanting it). If you do want things and have never really got them, and you've spent quite a lot of your early years Being Always Wrong (I am imagining living with the sainted eldest son and then expected to discipline first the lower deck and then the Thirds), and have never learnt how to ask for things in a calm way, you're liable to be somewhat over-emphatic. (Not realising Rowan might perhaps have formed a friendship with the Tranters while Katie was cavorting at Oxford* is unforgiveable though.)
* Which is another thought: is Rowan particularly bitter because (while Karen was obviously never going to want to run the farm or be even slightly able to) she was able slightly to soothe the worst parts of farm-running with the thought that she was freeing Karen for Oxford and Giles for his career, and it's become very clear that Karen didn't much like Oxford and is in fact throwing it all up anyway?
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Date: 2014-12-05 05:02 pm (UTC)* Which is another thought: is Rowan particularly bitter because (while Karen was obviously never going to want to run the farm or be even slightly able to) she was able slightly to soothe the worst parts of farm-running with the thought that she was freeing Karen for Oxford and Giles for his career, and it's become very clear that Karen didn't much like Oxford and is in fact throwing it all up anyway?