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Again, posting on behalf of[personal profile] legionseagle, a little later than planned owing to some email glitches at my end, for which, apologies.

--L.B.



At the Antonia Forest conference in Bournemouth in 2006 someone observed:

"Trennels is basically a TARDIS. It has all these extra buildings which only materialise when the plot needs them." (And dematerialise, too, natch: hence Great-Uncle Lawrence and His Amazing Disappearing Hawkhouse.)

In Peter's Room it's the turn of the Old Shippen (available for general storage, coal- and coke-bunkering and winter hobby pursuits. Black Masses extra.) and the adjacent Old Yard, which has ten-foot high walls and a gate to match. (What were the Marlows who built it trying to keep in? Prize wallabies?)

For the first time since TMATT we have Peter foregrounded. While chopping wood in the Old Yard (so avoiding Madame Orly) he's also making the better acquaintance of Daks, who here makes his first on-screen appearance. Another inventive literary device, the infodump via pedigree poodle pup, and it works rather well, especially given the buttoned up nature of Marlows in general and their attitudes to animals by way of contrast (Mikes observed in How to Be an Alien that it's quite acceptable for the English to have a long walk with their best friend and never exchange a word with him; if one takes one's dog instead you must converse.)

Mrs Bertie – developing traces of a personality here, compared to the stereotype of Falconer's Lure – tells him to stack the chopped wood in the Old Shippen, a disused cowshed across the yard. Daks vanishes, then his barking leads Peter into a hidden room above: a place stuffed with junk and possibilities.

We get a first glimpse of Rowan at work. She, Mr Tranter and Ted Coulthard, the cow man, are building a lambing pen in a bitter wind when Peter arrives to ask if he can use the room for his own purposes. There follow two and a half pages of pure comedy shot through with nice flashes of observation (Rowan, having banged her thumb with a mallet is "concentratedly silent, sucking it").

Discussion of the Old Shippen's murky past leads into one of the themes of the book: the Marlow family's connections with the district and how the "present management" are coping with being simultaneously newcomers and a family with a long and colourful local history.

Harry Marlow, who built the Old Shippen, had a popular reputation for being in league with the Devil. The building's evil reputation lingers. Beasts put in it never do well, the previous vicar's refusal to carry out an exorcism remains a bone of contention, and Ted Coulthard's grandfather, when a boy, claimed to have encountered the Devil in person, sitting on the roof-tree and singing to himself (the best tunes, presumably).

One of the questions the book raises is whether the fault is in people's stars or in themselves. The debate's terms are outlined in the original discussion between Rowan, Peter, Ted and Mr Tranter. Is the building itself cursed or is it the choices people make with respect to it which causes things to go awry?

The light, up-beat tone of the chapter – it's the start of the holidays, Christmas is coming – is sustained even through the intended bombshell of Miss Keith's letter regarding the row about the twins, the match and the Play.

On which topic, Madame Orly's devastating comment that the twins had obviously shown greater artistic integrity than Miss Keith, so she should stop complaining, will never stop being funny.





This is a darker chapter than the first in several ways, only lifted in the last pages by the hustle and bustle of the others' arrival from Kingscote.

Forest paints an evocative picture of how the room above the Old Shippen looks at dusk. Furthermore, all the bits Peter choses to save from "the Viking's funeral" he makes of the junk are evocative of death: tropical butterflies pinned to cards, blown birds' eggs and a heap of antique swords and pistols.

Given Peter's spotty record with guns (series bag to date: one Kontenadmiral (intended); one goshawk (emphatically not)), his pointing the pistols nonchalantly down the stairs and firing them in the hope they're loaded makes my blood run thick with cold, especially with Daks running loose about the place (how on earth would Nicola have explained that to Esther???).

In a throwaway line, we learn that Trennels was built out of the proceeds of slavery (So far as fic goes, so far as I know only [livejournal.com profile] ankaret in her brilliant piece Sugar has tackled this aspect of Marlow history).

Finally, Peter discovers farm logs in a trunk, going back at least to the 17th century (any historian want to comment about the plausibility of the ease with which Peter deciphers the older entries?) He learns of an ancestor, Malise, who broke with his family and rode away on his 16th birthday "to serve the Man of Blood Charles Stuart."

Peter immediately identifies with Malise – his support for the loner, the rebel, trumps even his natural political inclinations (he's been a Parliamentarian since the first term of prep school, at least) and ignores the heartbreak of a family at war with itself. "O Absalom my son my son" is a cry of loss ringing across the ages, but falls, as far as Peter is concerned, on closed ears.

This book is the one with the most direct references to TMATT, so the echoes of the last time Peter found ancestral papers in a trunk are almost certainly intentional (there's even the "By Watch and Ward"/"Under Two Flags" thematic link of discarded, out-dated, jingoistic juvenile fiction.)

Lieut. Foley, too, identified with an ancestor who set himself apart from his community: Fabian the wrecker. It's an unsettling parallel, underscored when the sovereigns Peter thought he'd found on a beam turn out to be unused farthings.

"Fairy gold" is his immediate assumption, not his own will to believe causing him to overlook the direct evidence of his senses. Nicola, though, sees and appreciates the farthings for what they are, rather than what delusion turns them into.






The third chapter is almost as long as the first two put together and packed. It's at first kaleidoscopic (the vivid economy with which Forest gets Christmas over is breath-taking) and then slows down as Nicola re-encounters Patrick, is forced to face the prospect of hunting as well as fears about keeping hawks over the winter (Patrick is his normal tactful self about how she's been managing to date: "They say's the worst thing you can possibly do") and Doris is introduced.

Doris is a great improvement on Mrs Bertie – not least because she avoids the "Miss" and "Master" forelock-tugging and also has a lively style as a raconteur. Furthermore, she's not afraid to act as the voice of authority. When, in another flashback to Lieut. Foley, Peter twists Nicola's arms up behind her back and carries on doing it after she's told him "Don't , Peter. You're hurting" only Doris's decisive intervention stops it from going – where? It's an unexpectedly unsettling moment.

Patrick arrives, is shown the upper room, takes to the farm log (like a duck to water) and Peter tentatively raises the topic of Malise. Patrick is about to say something when they're all interrupted by Lawrie, in a high state of agitation and crying, "it's not fair".

Which, I have to say, for once I agree on. Catkin's an equus ex machina as regards large swathes of the plot, especially the Patrick/Ginty relationship. Patrick first really meets Ginty when she's on Catkin's back – calm, confident, in control and yet needing just a little help that only he, Patrick, can supply. It does, however, make no apparent sense why the Marlow parents choose at this point to give a gift which is not only disproportionate to the family finances but to any gift ever given to any of the other seven children. All suggestions gratefully received.

Anyway, the four younger Marlows, three dogs, one merlin and Patrick colonise the room above the Old Shippen (somewhat to Peter's suppressed resentment) and, when snow shuts off other options, we get the introduction of Gondal. Which I suspect will be a major point for discussion below the line, so on this point I'll simply flag up two issues – why is Nicola, the Polar Expedition, so visibly reluctant to engage with the proposed Gondal, and how does it tie in with other indications of her exclusion elsewhere in the chapter? Secondly, does anyone fancy writing Gothic fanfic in the style of the Misses Ramsey?



General discussion points – a few that spring to mind:

Superstition – from the "X" drawn across the water to avert a quarrel to the whole business with the shippen. The Devil on the roof-tree – yes, no or on the fence?
The Marlows in transition, from holiday visitors to members of the local community.
Rowan, working side by side with Ted Coulthard and Mr Tranter: can we say the relationship modelled here is, "Wet behind the ears but promising junior officer, very senior NCOs"?
Peter's character – bearing in mind earlier questions about Peter's judgement (of himself and others, and of situations). How does his obsession with Malise tie in? What about the Foley parallel?
Ginty and Patrick. Patrick and Nicola. Wedges, exclusion, serially monogamous friendships and awkwardness.
The Brontes as filtered through Marlow consciousnesses – a match made in Hell?
Gondal – again, so far as we've got, what issues are already developing? Do the hidden agendas (of Ginty, identifying with Emily Bronte, of Peter, identifying with Malise, of Lawrie, just wanting to act at any price) complement or conflict?

Anything else? Have at it!

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 08:52 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] carmine-rose.livejournal.com
I once inadvertently started a huge and quite vitriolic discussion about this very thing, back when I was new to the community! I don't know if this link will work: here (http://trennels.livejournal.com/3795.html?nc=183#comments), but if I've screwed up the HTML, it was back in August 2005!

For what it's worth, I still think it was outrageously unfair of Mrs Marlow.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 09:02 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antfan.livejournal.com
Oh boy! Thanks for posting that link - I just scrolled through, and at some point, I'm going to settle down with a coffee and indulge myself reading the whole thing.

Right now I'm trying to remind myself I have work to do...

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 09:08 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] carmine-rose.livejournal.com
I can't re-read it! I got in my very first Internet flame-war on it, and it just makes me cringe inside. I'm just about to be come a mum for the first time and I'm wondering whether my viewpoint on Mrs Marlow buying herself Chocbar will change at all!

I think people make some very interesting points though!

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 11:08 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] buntyandjinx.livejournal.com
I've just read that thread - very interesting



My view is that

a) With the Shippen grab and Catkin, AF is showing that family life, and life in general, is unfair and people have to suck it up. When you have 8 children, you simply don't have time to arbitrate every squabble (I find it impossible with two) and you will - because you are human and fallible - act unjustly occasionally. I have a friend who's the oldest of 8, who was complaining to me just the other day how her mother's handed out her jewellery to various siblings seemingly randomly, causing great upset, how she favours the one boy (in fact maybe my friend's mother is Mrs M!) It happens

b) Mrs M is worried about Ginty and her reaction to the Foley incident and is trying to make it up to Ginty - probably she realises they were too harsh on her over the summer, hence the Unity incident and is feeling guilty.

c) She has also realised that Ginty's looks will get into trouble if they're not careful and decides - ironically - a horse will provide a healthy distraction

d) Pam sees something of her younger self in Ginty - the party girl who loves wholesome outdoor pursuits and is rewarding this. Probably wrongly, but I know when my children show an enthusiasm for something that I'm passionate about, it's very exciting and they tend to be rewarded.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 02:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] scarletlobster.livejournal.com
I've always been curious at the discrepancy between horses/ ponies and bicycles. In Falconer's Lure Nicola says how good it would be to have bicycles and gets told by Rowan, in no uncertain terms, that there is no money for bicycles. But even then there are 'the farm horses' (who I don't think ever have names) and Prisca; later, no one seems to imagine that it would be inconvenient when Nicola is offered Catkin, then she produces Idiot Boy, then we get Catkin and Chocbar; but still there are no hints that Nicola or Lawrie ever get bicycles; they either walk or ride. Surely there cannot have been a time when people could readily keep a string of horses, but could not afford even second-hand bicycles for their children?

It is the same doubt I always had when reading Ballet Shoes, that the girls live in a permanent state of financial catastrophe, and even getting basic clothes is a huge drama, but the Fossil household continues to run with staff throughout. As does Trennels of course; Mrs Bertie AND Doris can be afforded more easily than a bicycle.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 03:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antfan.livejournal.com
RE Ballet Shoes - have you read Noel Streatfeild's Vicarage Family? It's a memoir of her own childhood, and has some interesting stuff in it about why, for a certain class of people, servants, governesses and private schools were seen as essential, and yet they didn't have enough money for new clothes or even decent food.

I guess if you're runnning a big lodging house (Ballet Shoes) or farm household (Trennels) some kind of help, in the era before much in the way of labour-saving devices, is fairly essential. Though (to go all Doylian suddenly) I do think Forest probably just forgot about the bicycles - there's no reason really why the kids couldn't have had them. Like the knife with sixteen blades - I bet Nicola did get a wrist watch before she was eighteen, if only because by the time of Run Away Home a wrist watch would be ridiculously small beer to ever the most cash-strapped family!

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 04:00 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] scarletlobster.livejournal.com
yes true. It always sounds extreme, the watch that can't be had for years and years because she has a penknife. I take your point about the world of Noel Streatfield, but of course that was decades earlier. I have come very late to this party, but see that there is a tag called 'What does Mrs Marlow do all day?' - and really, what DOES she do all day? Couldn't she do some of the cooking and housework, or even take in bed and breakfast guests or something?

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 07:25 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
I know we have got beyond Rowan taking on the farm, but this is the first time we actually see her hammering in sheep pens etc. and I must say I do think it is inexcusable of the Marlow parents. Yes, Pam has 8 kids, but they are all away at boarding school and she has two people to help in the house . And I know Rowan is super competent, but at this point the idea is that there will be a farm manager, and I just can't imagine myself agreeing that my daughter should leave school at 16 to run a farm for the benefit of her brother (and we see that she is growing very thin and is clearly working her socks off) while I sat at home and did... What? She's not entertaining on a grand scale the way I imagine Helena Merrick does, she has plenty of staff and we know from End of Term that Pam's cooking is a family joke, she's not looking after children because they're not around... She doesn't even seem to give Rowan a hand with the farm at any point.

Kat S

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 08:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antfan.livejournal.com
To be fair, she's just moved the household from London to Trennels unaided, and I'd guess she must do a load of paperwork, sorting out of Jon's affairs, as Geoff is away the whole time. Despite the help, I'm sure there lots of stuff that has to be done - probably very dreary - which doesn't appear much in the books.

But as for letting Rowan take up farming - yes, agree completely, although at least she did try and stop this, but was overruled by Geoff and Rowan herself.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-30 09:50 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] buntyandjinx.livejournal.com
Mrs Marlow is a creature from the 1920s - as made clear when they take out her old inter-war flapper dresses. Upper-middle class women of that time just didn't cook and clean - partly because labour-saving devices were few and far between, (houses had huge, hungry, dirty kitchen ranges to clean and feed all day for starters) and there was a huge servant class. Going without staff was unthinkable, ditto boarding schools for the children.

I don't know if you're familiar with the Persephone imprint, they publish neglected works of women's fiction and non-fic, but there's one manual called How To Run Your Home Without Help, originally published in 1949, clearly a very modern notion and another called House Bound about a woman making a revolutionary decision to go without help during the war and finding a) it's a huge struggle and b)everyone is appalled.

So in short, Mrs M is living in a large, cold, dirty farmhouse with no training in housekeeping and from a privileged background that in no way encourage her to be involved. So to me, it all makes sense. I also think there would be a huge amount of admin concerning the move. But yes, on the bicycles front I think AF simply forgot!

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-30 03:26 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antfan.livejournal.com
Another point with Mrs M is that she'd probably be expected to do a lot of stuff that maybe doesn't seem important to us, but was probably seen as pretty much compulsory for a woman in her position - corresponding with relatives and friends (all those bequest-leaving aunts!) so as to maintain the family's connections, taking an interest in the tenants/village, maybe some local charity stuff. Even the hunting - though she enjoys it - will help the Marlows get accepted in the community. And basic stuff like bill-paying, dealing with tradesmen/workmen, getting stuff fixed, shopping for or making the children's clothes, would have been a lot more time-consuming than they are now. Plus when Grandmother came for one of her two month visits she would be expected to drop everything...

Although she doesn't seem naturally domestic/a great manager, it always feels like she does her best, and she certainly never comes across as a heartless social type like Mrs Frewen (or maybe Mrs Merrick...)

(And what about Ann in this book? I think there must be a lot to do, because presumably Ann must be busy helping her mother - as she never seems to have any friends or hobbies, apart from the piano. Or maybe Ann is having a nervous breakdown and that is why Mrs M is so occupied for the whole book that she never notices that her other children are holed up the whole time in the Old Shippen...)

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-10-01 06:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] scarletlobster.livejournal.com
Yes, replying to you and buntyandjinx, I can see that this enormous house must take a lot of managing. But AF never really seems interested in Pam Marlow: she doesn't bother to give her any hobbies or committees or friends as far as I remember. I don't think we ever have a sense of where she is geographically except at mealtimes: we don't see her in the garden or chatting to Mrs Bertie. I think later on in PR we see her wrestling with the boiler.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-30 05:02 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mrs-redboots.livejournal.com
Yes, neither of my grandmothers, who both married just after the First World War, ever expected to have to learn to cook and to run their own houses, although both succeeded in doing just that (well, one of them turned into an excellent cook; the other, not so much...). One was an Army wife, so literally always had at the very least a batman until my grandfather died in 1950; the other, brought up in "genteel poverty" nevertheless always had at least one maid. After that grandfather died, she was reduced to a daily help twice a week, but managed. Although the fury when the Home she lived in for the last 20 years of her life suddenly asked their residents to clean their own shoes had to be heard to be believed..... she had never done that in her life and was not starting now!

I'm currently re-reading the various Provincial Lady novels (reduced to under £1 on Amazon just now), which if you haven't read I do commend; she, too, is pretty helpless domestically, and when she takes a London flat prefers to eat out in cafés, however revolting, than to try to do her own cooking.

All this to say Pam Marlow was very much a product of her age and time.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-10-01 12:24 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] buntyandjinx.livejournal.com
Yes, I was thinking of Provincial Lady too! Also published by Persephone I believe, I wish they'd reprint AF

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Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 07:07 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] carmine-rose.livejournal.com
I'm never quite sure how convinced I am by Lawrie wasting a watch and Nick not being bothered... I mean, I can see her preferring a knife, but I'd expect Lawrie to have wanted something else as well. She doesn't strike me as the type of person who is bothered about accurate time-keeping, but Nick seem more responsible.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 08:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] carmine-rose.livejournal.com
That should have been Lawrie wanting a watch, of course.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 09:47 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] legionseagle (from livejournal.com)
Of course, it might have been that Lawrie wanted a watch because it's an expensive ornament of a type allowed at school.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-10-02 08:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nineveh-uk.livejournal.com
Could there be a class dimension to the bicycles, something a bit plodding and not quite our sort, dear to the very idea - played up by the possession of one by the despised and conventional Ann. Horse are so much more glamorous and useful for hunting and meeting the right people, whereas a bicycle just takes you to morning service.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-29 10:07 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
All of these explanations sound very plausible to me. Also, if Nicola was able to realize that Ginty had gone off U Logan and was well on the way to becoming a Pony Club type, it's possible that others did as well. And I imagine everyone was concerned about Ginty - not necessarily for the exact reasons I would be concerned about her, because I don't think any of the Marlows realize how genuinely traumatic the Foley incident was, but I think everyone was very eager for Ginty to find healthier hobbies than writing self-pitying letters to Unity.

That doesn't make it fair, but I think AF very often makes the point that the actions/decisions of the upper decks seem irrational to the lower decks whether or not they really are. We get to see a lot of the decision-making process at Kingscote, and it usually has something behind it, though it's rarely anything that the students affected by the decision could have guessed at. We don't get to see the decision-making process here, so it's hard to say what Mrs. Marlow's motivations are, but I don't think she's motivated by favoritism, because in Falconer's Lure, for instance, she shows no sign of preferring Ginty to the others. I think it probably just goes in the "seemed like a good idea at the time" file, and we do know Mrs. Marlow is an impulse buyer. Maybe she thinks something will turn up and she can do something nice for the others later, but right now she specifically wants to buy these two horses, and clearly she and Ginty will get the most out of them.

Basically, I can't take a side. It's probably not something I'd do, unless I had the funds to do something more or less matching for the other kids, but then I have no idea what it's like to live on a farm and have eight children and a husband who's always away. And she's only about forty, and she's more or less alone in a huge house most of the time, after having raised a huge family in a relatively small house - all I can say is that it must be very strange to be Mrs. Marlow, and I really have no idea what her stress level is and how much she might feel the need to liven up her life with something like Chocbar.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 12:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antfan.livejournal.com
Just read the thread. My main thought is that while Antonia Forest would surely have thought it all quite, quite mad, Lawrie would have been highly gratified to think that so many people were finally giving the issue of her treatment re party dresses/mounts the attention it deserved!

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 01:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] scarletlobster.livejournal.com
I feel that Lawrie is pretty harshly treated here - they all basically take the micky out of her, but she DOES have a point, and one might expect her mother to respect that. It's not as if there is any trace of future plans for Lawrie to have an expensive pony, and it must seem that Nicola has lucked into getting both a pony and a huge sum of money.

Having said that, I think the bit in the shippen where she is so desperate to have her grievance listened to that she is just about to rush dramatically out into the snow is hilarious.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 03:32 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antisoppist.livejournal.com
where she is so desperate to have her grievance listened to
whereas Nicola is desperate for no-one to ever know what her grievances are. It's making me wonder whether the twins are some sort of psychological allegory where when the egg split Lawrie got all the display of emotions for both of them and Nick got all the control. I don't know my Freud. Is that Id and Ego?

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-26 09:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] sprog-63.livejournal.com
It's making me wonder whether the twins are some sort of psychological allegory where when the egg split Lawrie got all the display of emotions for both of them and Nick got all the control.

I'm not a Freudian either, but I think at a Freudian level, that makes linguistic sense as a description of what drives them.

However, I am not at all happy with the genetics of your idea (because that the genes:characteristics mapping is not that straightforward).

However if you look to systemic thinking, there may be a useful formulation: there is a tendency to balance and/or polarisation in families, groups and couples (and twins). So that the more Lawrie emotes, the less "space" there is for Nicola to do so, so she specialises in not-emoting/control, in order to emphasise their difference and not be subsumed by Lawrie's superior emoting. Conversely and simultaneously, the less emotion Nicola shows, the more Lawrie needs to demonstrate to ensure the world is aware of her (their?) feelings. In terms of allegory, I see it as Ying and Yang rather than Id and Ego.

My hunch is: AF saw it as neither!

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-09-27 12:48 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] antisoppist.livejournal.com
I don't think AF saw it as either either and I do know genes are more complicated than that; it was more about seeing them as a unit and how characteristics have been divided up between them. I wish we had that term in the Thirds when they were separated.

Re: Catkin purchase - why?

Date: 2014-10-08 01:27 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Hi there, I'm just catching up - I've spent the last couple of weeks rereading the books and the posts. I hope it's ok to join in and that this is the right way to do it. Sorry about the anonymous thing but I'm still working on joining - it just sits there and looks at me. Peter's room was my first AF - at the age of about thirty I found it for 25 cents in the local Kmart (I'm in Australia) and spent the next 20 years getting my hands on the others.

I always thought the big mistake with Catkin was to make it a birthday/Christmas present. Sometimes you just have to buy one child a big budget item - piano, computer, overseas school trip, whatever, and if you make it a "present" it is unfair. I would have given her token presents. If she is serious about riding she needs a good horse.

Pip

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